I’m Every Woman

You can run your team of, let’s say, 40 employees plus across the board in your different departments, running this number with the help of a handful of department managers or supervisors. You are that woman, heels on and lipstick in place with not a hair out of place!

You have always known what you can achieve and you have done so in the right environments, building your own unique teams, investing in them and nurturing them to the best of your ability. You have an involvement in every aspect of the business and you yourself generally only answer to one or at a push, two people higher than you and your position. You are so good at your job that you drive the business and ideas consistently and are generally left alone to make huge financial and project decisions for actual business owners.

You are highly thought of by those who aren’t threatened by you and also had those who ARE threatened by you, by simply just being your authentic kick ass self, they are the ones who want what you have!! You make it look so easy and shiny. They want to knock you off the top and will do given half the chance, all while calling themselves your friend/colleagues.

You may also have most definitely been lied about professionally by those who find it easier to not have you around showing them up at how poorly they do their job, cheated on in our private life maybe more than once. Double crossed both professionally and personally yet you still hold a deep faith in yourself and know that all you ever carry in your heart is good intent and sometimes you have judged people wrongly and this has been your down fall!! People have often let you down in some way, shape or form.

Success in the board room is yours but for some reason, your personal life isn’t what it should be. The partner, or lack of the right partner or any partner, isn’t fitting your profile. Friendships and other personal relationships on the surface look great but no one really let’s you talk! What I mean by that is — no one want’s to hear that you are lonely, or you have anxiety, panic attacks and worry if you are actually enough. And probably by now if you have had a long career, the kids have come and grown up or time has ran out and you are left facing the onset of menopause you may even have found yourself smack bang in the middle of the menopause wondering why you feel so out of whack 4 out of 7 days a week.

You may be part of the 5.30am brigade of high achievers, meditating and doing yoga or a quick gym session before you hit the office or (fill in the blank) you green juice, you listen to podcasts while on the move. You either love or hate social media and if you do have time to scroll you then realise you have just wasted 30 mins of precious time you will never get back…

Life is getting busier and the time is passing by much quicker. You want to restore balance in your life. You want to press the pause button and shut the world out so you don’t have to talk, think or do!!!

If you are between 40 and 60 you are most likely to have become a little too dependent on that evening glass of vino or G n T and convince yourself it’s ok!!! You have your close group of friends but you don’t always tell them everything now like you used to do.

You make promises with friends and family you can’t keep because at the time of making them you felt that you could follow through (meeting up and chilling) why wouldn’t you? But when the time comes to actually meet up, you cancel because you are either too tired and just want that alone time or you get yourself worked up with anxiety with no real understanding of why. You love your friends and family but you just can’t pretend to have it all together and you just don’t think they will understand if you tell them how you are really feeling about your life. After all, you should be grateful 24/7 and remain positive and when you can’t do this you feel like you are failing in some way.

So you’re a woman who continues with the patterns of hope that one day it will all balance out on it’s own. You just need to keep going with the same old habit ‘and belief’ that anxiety and panic attacks or just generally feeling low, are all acceptable parts of this modern world we now live in with it’s fast pace and 24/7 demands.

How do I know that the above will resinate with most women from 40 upwards?!

Because I have been all of these women in my life time.

I have walked many miles in different shoes, in different parts of the world and sat in the big board room in places like Dubai, Oman and Saudi as the head of my team

Been the working Mum

Been the woman who has been double crossed

Been Manipulated

Been Lied about

Also been the woman who was well respected

Admired,

Looked up to and have lead and built some amazing teams internationally

Have been the married woman with a career/ husband of over 18 years and brought up 2 amazing men

Am the mother who went through feeling redundant as my young sons grew in to fully grown men and didn’t seem to need me in the same way anymore.

Walked away when the environment wasn’t right but stood up strong when it was right

I’m the menopausal woman

Im the woman who survived after falling down too many times. The woman who eventually stayed up and finally walked away from a toxic relationship.

I am also that divorced woman

I have been that single woman after divorce in my 40’s

I am that woman who has found a true companion in life but not before being her own woman in her own right to figure out who she was. Once she was happy with who she was and finally happy alone, the right companion showed up (and very unexpected I might add)!

I am now the woman who has retrained as a hypnotherapist so that I could serve other strong women who will need my knowledge and experience to guide them through a much easier path than my own.

I have been many woman in my life time and I am sure I will develop into a few more versions of me yet. I am not afraid of change and fear never changing more, as life is not supposed to stand still for too long for any of us. What we are supposed to do is feel happier, more balanced and less stressed. I am not saying that everyone should throw off their heels and all leave their jobs. I am saying look for more balance and look at what triggers your anxiety and panic attacks, get some help for it from professionals who are qualified and who can also empathise with the place you find yourself in at this very moment in time. Some one you can trust in a safe environment.

I have made mistakes but I have also had many victories. Life is bumpy and you don’t always feel like you are in a safe enough environment with all female friends to be your true self, it feels too vulnerable for some and if you have been burnt before by ‘the single white female type of woman’ then I get that you may prefer the company of men. But don’t give up on the good batches who are here to show you the way!

Ladies we all have many stories and within those stories there are even more tales to tell. Now these stories and memories all get held in our minds and some are trapped like stale energy in our bodies. We form habits and tell ourselves lies in some way, shape or form. For years sometimes!

There are more of us than ever before who have been divorced, remarried possibly a few times over. Life hasn’t been the fairy tale but it has blessed us with many victories and celebrations along the way.

This is not a sales pitch. This is the honesty of another woman just like yourself resonating with what may be happening in the background of your life and showing you it’s ok to show your truth and honesty. It’s ok to admit that anxiety and panic attacks are part of your life and it’s ok to seek out help just like other women like myself have before you!! It’s ok not to have your ‘Crap’ together and it’s ok not to have all the answers. What’s not ok is to sit alone and think it’s weak to seek out help with anxiety and panic attacks.

There is a better way.

Love, respect and support.

Justine

The Curative Hypno x